7 Good Minutes: Extra - The Missing Column: What to Do the Moment You Start Keeping Score
7 Good MinutesShow Notes
When the thought shows up—I always, I’m the only one, third time this week—you can use it as a cue instead of a verdict.
In about two minutes, you’ll learn a three-step move called the missing column. Name two specific things the other person did recently that you didn’t count. Ask yourself what you need right now. Then ask for that one thing plainly, without bringing the whole list of evidence.
You’ll also hear what to expect when you try it, and what the next step is if the missing column keeps coming up empty week after week.
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