Show Notes
What if you were never broken to begin with, just disconnected from who you already are?
In this episode, Dr. Debi sits down with Michele Alexandria, intuitive coach and personal development guide, for a conversation built around a single reframe: we're never broken, we just forgot who we are. Michele traces how that forgetting starts almost from birth, one of the first words most of us hear is 'no,' and how well-meaning but unconscious programming from parents, media, and culture teaches us to shrink, self-monitor, and perform for approval long before we're old enough to question any of it.
Together, Dr. Debi and Michele explore how to recognize when you're out of alignment, in a friendship, a relationship, or simply with yourself, and why the discomfort of outgrowing something is a sign of growth, not a problem to fix. Michele introduces her 'sticky note self' exercise, a tool for identifying which beliefs are actually yours and which ones were handed to you by someone who never even believed them for themselves.
This conversation goes deep into self betrayal, self trust, and what it actually means to release the layers instead of trying to fix what was never broken. Michele offers a grounded, practical take on rebuilding a relationship with your own inner knowing, one belief, one sticky note, at a time.
In This Episode:
The core reframe: we're never broken, we're bent, and why so many of us feel broken instead
How programming starts almost from birth, and why one of the first words most children hear is 'no'
The difference between being raised by a conscious versus an unconscious parent, and how that shapes your relationship to your own intuition
How to recognize when you're out of alignment in a friendship or relationship, and the questions to ask yourself when something feels off
Michele's saying: hard now, easy later, or easy now, hard later, and why avoidance always costs more eventually
Why discomfort during growth is a sign something is moving, not a sign something is wrong
The 'sticky note self' exercise: identifying limiting beliefs, then asking one question before letting each one go, who does this belong to?
The 'parent trap,' and Michele's reframe: you came through your parents, you are not of them
How self betrayal actually works: we betray ourselves the moment we stop listening to our own inner knowing
Why the body always knows before the mind does, and how to start rebuilding trust in your own intuition one small moment at a time
Resources Mentioned:
MicheleAlexandria.com (free discovery session)
The Five Stages of Betrayal Recovery, ThePBTInstitute.com
Connect with Michele Alexandria:
Website: MicheleAlexandria.com
Connect with Dr. Debi
The PBT Institute: https://ThePBTInstitute.com
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