893. Drop the "good girl" in you + embrace your desires: Spiritual practices to transform shame with Elise Loehnen
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This conversation with bestselling author Elise Loehnen explores how spiritual practice can help us question the beliefs we've inherited about being a "good woman." Krista + Elise unpack shame, envy, comparison, and desire, revealing how these patterns shape our lives—and how spirituality can become a path back to authenticity.
Together, they explore the misunderstood story of Mary Magdalene, the origins of the seven deadly sins, and why emotions like envy, anger, and longing aren't flaws to overcome but invitations to deeper self-understanding. Elise shares how questioning old narratives can become one of the most powerful spiritual practices we have.
From body image + ambition to belonging + purpose, this conversation invites you to rethink the rules you've inherited and embrace a more intentional way of living. If you've ever struggled with comparison, perfectionism, or feeling like you have to be "good" to be worthy, this episode offers a fresh perspective on spirituality, freedom, and self-worth.
We also talk about:
The truth about Mary Magdalene that history left out
How the "good girl" script shows up in everyday life
Why envy is pointing you toward your next chapter
Releasing guilt around desire, ambition, and wanting more
Healing your relationship with food + your body
The emotional cost of comparison + perfectionism
How shame disconnects us from our intuition
Choosing depth over performance in the age of social media
Finding freedom beyond society's expectations
Why your triggers may be your greatest teachers
Resources:
Instagram: @eliseloehnen
Substack: eliseloehnen.substack.com
Book: https://a.co/d/0hlAvZYx
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