Show Notes
For many children raised by narcissistic parents, their body becomes another battleground where they learn that who they are is never quite acceptable. Too thin? There's a problem. Too heavy? There's a problem. Trying to improve yourself? That's a problem too. " I always felt that I disappointed my parents and they didn't like me." "I always went from chunky to super skinny and kept moving back and forth with my weight." "As an adult now, I'm an emotional eater. Food is my comfort." "I ...
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