Show Notes
Dr. Myron Krys calls himself and loneliness bedfellows. He knows it from the inside, and he sees it every day in his therapy practice with gay men who look like they have it all.
Krys explains why open relationships, packed calendars, and career wins do not fix isolation, and how dating apps trade real connection for fetishization and instant rejection.
He also opens up about being neurodivergent in a field that rarely talks about it, and why that intersection gets ignored in therapy rooms built for someone else.
This conversation names what achievement cannot buy: being fully seen.
Key Takeaways Being wanted and being seen are not the same thing, and dating apps have made that gap wider Success, sex, and a packed calendar can all be sophisticated ways to avoid connection Krys calls himself and loneliness bedfellows, he built his career around what he lived Neurodivergence and queerness intersect in ways most therapy rooms are not built to hold Courage looks like putting yourself in a new room, not waiting to feel ready first Asking permission before using sensitive language is a form of respect, not weakness
About Myron
Dr. Myron Krys (pronounced “Chris”), PhD, LPC, is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, scholar, and creator of the Self-Reclamation Framework (5Rs), which helps people reclaim identity, heal from limiting beliefs, and build more authentic lives and relationships.
He specializes in identity development, self-esteem, sexuality, relational dynamics, religious trauma, and the unique emotional challenges faced within LGBTQ+ communities.
Dr. M.K. is a body- and sex-positive therapist at The Depth Collective and an award-winning speaker known for bridging psychology, spirituality, culture, and lived experience. His work explores how people move from performance and survival toward authenticity, intimacy, and belonging. Connect With Myron
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