Show Notes
Do you find it hard to speak up for yourself in relationships? If so, this 2-part series on how to assert yourself may help you understand why it can feel so hard to ask for things or say no in different types of relationships. In order to be able to assert yourself, you first need to know what you want and don't want. Sometimes this is harder that it seems. If you've spent a lifetime minimizing or denying your needs, it may be hard to get in touch with what matters to you most. Once you've identified your needs, you have to trust that your needs matter as much as everyone else's. For full show notes, visit our website: https://bayareadbtcc.com/podcast DBT Skills Discussed Myths about Interpersonal Effectiveness Check the Facts Opposite Action Build Mastery DEAR MAN Ask us a Question We'd love to hear from you! Where are you getting stuck with your skills application? Ask us a question for the chance to have it answered on the podcast. Submit your question here. Please note that questions, and this podcast in general, are not a substitute for individual mental health treatment.
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