Don't Ignore the Elephant | Alex Hewitt: Masculinity and Mental Health
So Now I’ve Got Breast CancerShow Notes
This week’s guest is Alex Hewitt, founder of AOK events, and he’s come on to talk about how he coped with severe anxiety when his world was crumbling around him. He wants to set a good example for his sons by opening up about his own mental health problems and encourage others to do the same. I’ve often wondered if men find it harder than women to talk about depression, anxiety and other mental health problems. Is it because of the traditional alpha male role model that men were expected to fill? I hope that things are changing but we’ve a long way to go. Many of you have written to me to tell me that your partners don’t understand what you’re going through or that you find it hard to talk to them. This is definitely a topic to explore again in season three.
If you or someone you know is struggling with your mental health, here are some safe resources for you:
MIND https://www.mind.org.uk CALM https://www.thecalmzone.net Samaritans https://www.samaritans.org Shout https://giveusashout.org
Don’t Ignore the Elephant Knitting pattern Use the code DITE for 20% off Knitting Pattern by Claire Fairall Designs All profits go to the Institute of Cancer Research
Alex Hewitt https://www.aokevents.com
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Don’t Ignore The Elephant is hosted by Dr Liz O’Riordan, in association with Elizabeth Richards, proudly sponsored by AOK Events, produced by Bird Lime Media.
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