Show Notes
I put a lot of my own body image struggle onto my daughter without ever meaning to, and I didn't catch it happening until it already had. That's exactly the kind of quiet, unintentional pattern Erin Washington and I dig into in this conversation.
Erin spent two decades cycling through anorexia and exercise bulimia, much of it hidden behind being the perfectionist, the straight-A student, the driven athlete nobody worried about. She's now the author of several books, including her newest, I'm Just Like Me, and the founder of the Blue Butterfly Foundation, which pairs teen girls struggling with self-image and body image with mentors who've lived through the exact same thing.
We talk honestly about what it actually looks like to model a healthy relationship with food and your own body in front of your kids, why physical compliments can quietly teach a child that beauty is their most important trait, and how something as small as a comment in the mirror or a diet before a big event gets absorbed by a watching child far more than anything you say directly to them. Erin also shares how representation shaped her own daughter's sense of what's possible, and why she wrote a children's book explaining, in simple terms, why none of us are supposed to look like anyone else.
If you've ever wondered whether you're passing along your own body image noise to your kids, or you're just looking for language that helps your daughter feel more at home in her own skin, this conversation is full of real, doable shifts you can start using today.
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