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Most people have plenty of conversations and almost no connection. You can talk to someone for twenty minutes, both be perfectly pleasant, and walk away knowing nothing real about each other.That's not a conversation problem. It's a connection problem, and it's fixable with the right tools. In this video I break down what actually moves a conversation from surface-level to something that sticks, and why "just be genuinely interested" is useless advice unless we break down what it looks like in practice. We have to get to a deeper level. What I cover:- Having an open mindset: why what you look for in people is what you'll find- Sending open signals: how people decide whether you're approachable before you say a word- Creating the connection point: the moment a conversation stops being small talk- Reciprocal self-disclosure: why you have to pay for what someone shares with your own sharing- The FORCE framework for follow-up questions (Future state, Opinion, Reason, Clarification, Emotion)- Being an outstanding listener: the part everyone claims to do and almost nobody actually doesThis works with family, friends, classmates, co-workers, and people you've just met. None of it requires you to be extroverted, funny, or interesting.Subscribe for more!Listen to the podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-andrew-godwin-podcast/id6791649966Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033PvtZwYy3pjNpGC0fwQD?si=gg_stjXdRZaIsMgrnblW-wFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.godwin_/ Join my coaching waitlist: https://waitlist.andrewgodwin.co/
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