The Feedback Mistake That’s Crushing Your Neurodivergent Kid's Confidence | Ep. 148
Autistic and ADHD Kids Parenting Strategies: Every Brain is DifferentShow Notes
In this episode, Samantha and Lauren continue their discussion on how to communicate positively with neurodivergent children, ensuring your child receives more positive than negative feedback.
They explore various strategies such as praising effort over outcome, naming invisible skills like regulation and flexibility, and using descriptive feedback instead of generic praise to help neurodivergent kids feel understood and appreciated.
Samantha and Lauren emphasize the importance of catching small, neutral moments and separating behavior from identity to avoid feelings of shame. They also discuss the significance of building positive feedback into daily routines and reflecting strengths during hard moments to establish a predictable, supportive environment.
They wrap up by offering practical questions parents can ask themselves to evaluate their feedback practices and promoting resources available on their website for further support.
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