How to Stay Human

183. What A Girl Wants: Reclaiming Desire + Pleasure

How to Stay Human

Show Notes

In the latest episode of the WomanIsHer mini-series, Tori Gordon and Avery Valentine engage in a captivating discussion about reclaiming desire and pleasure in the context of their new program. Their mission is to empower women to embrace their raw authenticity and sensuality, ultimately reclaiming their feminine power, pleasure, and voice. Throughout the episode, Tori and Avery emphasize the transformative power of understanding and embracing one's desires. Together, they delve into the societal and self-imposed limitations that hinder women's personal growth, highlighting the significance of acknowledging and pursuing one's true desires. Tori and Avery address topics such as the importance of recognizing personal desires, understanding the connection between pleasure and empowerment, and the role of tantra in cultivating desire and pleasure. By merging psychological and spiritual understanding, Avery presents a vision of personal liberation that transcends societal norms and self-limiting beliefs. This thought-provoking conversation offers listeners a deeper alignment of heart and mind, providing valuable insights on embracing desire and pleasure as a catalyst for a life filled with depth, passion, and unbridled freedom. Sign up for the WomanISHer Program! _________________________________________ Avery Valentine is a dynamic force in the realm of personal liberation, celebrated for her unapologetic passion and boundless energy. As a fearless embodiment coach, facilitator, and educator, she dedicates herself to empowering individuals to break free from societal and self-imposed limitations. Follow Avery on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/avery.maie _________________________________________ 3:30 What Do I Really Want? 9:00 You Deserve What You Desire 11:30 How to Identify if You’re Disconnected from Your Desire

When is the last time you did something just because you wanted to?

Who taught you that desiring something was wrong?

25:00 The Power of Physical Touch 33:00 Cleaning up the Emotional Debris 42:00 You Deserve to Feel Good, Pleasure if Your Birthright _________________________________________ Our Sponsors: Interested in experiencing EESystem technology for yourself? Go to unifydhealing.com/COACHABLE Discover the power of vibro-acoustic technology with InHarmony at iaminharmony.com and use code COACHABLE _________________________________________ Sign up for the WomanISHer Program!

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