ADHD & Love - The Truth About ADHD Relationships Nobody Talks About| Michaela Thomas Breaks the Silence
ADHD UntangledShow Notes
In this live episode, psychologist Michaela Thomas reveals why ADHD makes love so complicated — from being mistaken for flirting when you're just being yourself, to freezing up when you actually like someone, to hearing "you're too much" or "not enough" on repeat.
We dive into the partner's side too: what to do when you feel like you've become their parent, why ADHD gets mistaken for narcissism, and the one question every couple should ask before calling it quits.
If you've ever been called dramatic, selfish, or "too intense" in relationships — or wondered why love feels harder for you than everyone else — this one's for you.
Topics covered:
00:00 Welcome & intro: ADHD and romantic relationships 03:30 "Am I flirting or just being myself?" — ADHD communication in dating 07:15 Why you freeze up when you actually like someone 11:40 ADHD vs narcissism: what's really going on? 16:00 "I feel like their parent" — the partner's perspective 20:10 Couples therapy: why you're going way too late 24:30 Time anxiety vs time optimism (and other neuro type clashes) 29:00 Intention vs impact: when your heart's in the right place but damage still happens 33:30 "You're too hard to love" — unpacking self-worth in relationships 38:00 What every partner of an ADHD person should know Join the free Untangled Community → https://chat.whatsapp.com/IDapTLhfuvy8KzYfZ8rhYPBecome an ADHD Coach → https://drmiguel-rosie.untangledco.com/adhdRetreats → https://untangledco.com/retreatsFollow us → https://www.instagram.com/adhd_untangled/
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