The Angry Therapist Podcast

Why Breakups Hurt So Much: Attachment, Grief, and Healing

The Angry Therapist Podcast

Show Notes

Why does a breakup feel like more than heartbreak?

In this episode, John Kim explores why breakups can feel like a death, and why that experience is rooted in more than emotion alone. Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, and years of therapeutic experience, he explains what happens in the brain after a relationship ends and why healing takes time.

John unpacks the hidden losses that often come with heartbreak, from the future we imagined to the identity we built inside a relationship. He also shares why recovery isn't about forgetting someone, but learning to create a new reality without them.

In this episode:

• Why breakups feel physically painful

• The role dopamine and attachment play in heartbreak

• How relationships become part of our emotional regulation system

• The grief of losing a future that never actually happened

• Identity loss after a breakup

• Why healing is really about rewiring

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