Show Notes
Healing can be heavy. If you've been walking through pain, carrying offense, or wrestling with how to move forward, this episode is for you. This conversation with t Alexandra Hoover is your nudge to stop carrying the hurt alone and to step into the healing God is offering. Alexandra and I talk openly about trauma, offense, and the deep work of healing. We explore how acknowledging pain is not weakness but the first step toward wholeness. We also dive into what forgiveness really means (and what it doesn't), the importance of vulnerability, and how our identity in Christ gives us the courage to face what hurts. With grace and wisdom, Alexandra reminds us that God doesn’t want us to shove down our pain or mask it with distractions. He wants to walk through it with us—toward freedom. Healing starts when we name and acknowledge our pain.
Offense is a weight we can choose to carry—or release to God.
Vulnerability is not weakness; it's a doorway to healing.
Forgiveness isn’t condoning, it’s releasing.
When we don’t forgive, we’re the ones held hostage.
We are not our trauma. We are beloved daughters of the King.
Faith is essential in the journey to healing.
You are not alone, and healing is possible.
This is your nudge to face what’s been weighing you down and let God begin the healing work. You don’t have to figure it out all at once—you just have to say yes to the next step. Alexandra Hoover is a compassionate writer, speaker, and author of Eyes Up and Without Wavering. A proud Latina, she’s committed to helping people navigate life’s pain with hope and faith. She serves her local church, is pursuing a master’s degree in women and theology at Northern Seminary, and somehow juggles it all while being a wife and mom of three. You can find her at alexandravhoover.com or on Instagram @alexandravhoover. Follow This Is Your Nudge so you never miss a moment of clarity, courage, or hope—and so you’re always reminded: you don’t have to stay stuck. There’s healing, and there’s joy ahead. Links: Laura L. Smith: https://www.laurasmithauthor.com/ https://www.instagram.com/laurasmithauthor/ Brave Woman, Mighty God book https://amzn.to/4rpX5lk Nuuly: $30 off your first month, cancel or pause your subscription at any time: https://share.nuuly.com/laura5845 Alexandra Hoover: https://www.alexandravhoover.com/ You Can Let Go book: https://amzn.to/48yup1U Here’s what you’ll take away from this episode:About Alexandra Hoover:
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