Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

There's a Yelp for BJs (w/ Drew Droege)

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Show Notes

Comedian Drew Droege (Search Party, Bob's Burgers) joins Nicole for a chat about why you should never blow out your own candle in a relationship, the creepy phenomenon of couples who look like twins, and how pop culture's been romanticized abusive relationships. Drew introduces Nicole to a new hookup app that is basically Yelp for blowjobs, and reads some of the incredible BJ reviews that are written like romance novels. Plus, they break down the new Alexander Skarsgård dom/sub rom-com movie, Pillion. Los Angeles! See Drew Droege's show, Theatre Idiot at Dynasty Typewriter on April 1st. Get tickets at dynastytypewriter.com/calendar-squad-up?event-id=131942

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