Show Notes
It is THE most searched for phrase in any search concerning mental health. “Am I depressed?” “How do I know if I’m depressed?” “What are the symptoms of depression?” “Can depression be healed or resolved?” (Yes.) We want to know and understand ourselves. We need to have a sense of what is normal and what isn’t. How much sadness in the normal tragedy of life is allowed before it becomes a habit? A condition? An impairment? These questions flood our minds as life goes on, struggle after struggle. This week, we dive into both the nature of depression and the etiology - in other words, how it comes to be. What happens in life that predisposes us to a depressed or melancholic state? And if we find ourselves down in the dumps for a good period of time, what should we do about it? After listening, you’ll walk away with: - An understanding of the history of depression and how we’ve attempted to address it across millennia, because it ain’t new - An understanding of what depression is and what it is not - Why you should give it the respect it deserves (Yes, I said respect.) - How to resolve depression, how to grow past it
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