Overcome Pornography for Good

266. A New Way to Control Your Sexual Urges

Overcome Pornography for Good

Show Notes

Are you constantly trying to control your sexual urges by building stronger fences, adding more rules, or relying on willpower? If so, you might be stuck in the exhausting cycle of resisting, giving in, and starting over. In this episode, I’m revisiting a powerful metaphor that will completely change how you think about your sexuality and what it actually means to be in control of it.

Instead of treating your sexuality like something dangerous that has to be locked away, I invite you to imagine it differently. What if the goal isn’t to cage it, silence it, or fight it, but to learn how to tame it? I walk you through a new way of understanding control that isn’t about fear or force, but about building trust, leadership, and a healthy relationship with your own sexual energy. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/new-way-control-sexual-urges Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts.

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