You Are Not Crazy

Why I Stopped Trying to Decode Them

You Are Not Crazy

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In this episode I talk about why emotionally abusive and coercive controlling relationships feel so disorienting, and why you end up spending so much time trying to decode behavior that was never actually confusing to begin with. I explain why the through line in these relationships is...

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