You Are Not Crazy

Why Confusion Is the Real Damage in Coercive Control

You Are Not Crazy

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In this episode I look at why confusion, not fear, is often the clearest sign that a relationship is built on coercive control. I walk through four patterns that show up again and again: the gap between how someone behaves in private versus in public, the shift from talking about impact to l...

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