Show Notes
In this episode, Rachel introduces a powerful framework: Stop Healing Thoughts vs. Keep Healing Thoughts
You’ll learn how to identify the thoughts that pull you out of the process of healing, and how to gently shift into thoughts that help you stay in it long enough for healing to actually happen.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why your thoughts are not the problem, but how you relate to them is
How your nervous system state influences the thoughts you think
What “Stop Healing Thoughts” are and how they keep you stuck
What “Keep Healing Thoughts” are and how they support healing
Why healing doesn’t require perfect thinking, just staying in the work
A simple practice to identify your own thought patterns and shift them
Your Takeaway Practice: Take a few minutes and write down: Your Stop Healing Thoughts (What pulls you into fear, hopelessness, or quitting?)
Your Keep Healing Thoughts (What helps you take your next step, even when it’s hard?)
This awareness alone can change everything.
Want Support Applying This Work? If you’re listening and thinking, “Okay, I get this… but how do I actually apply it to my symptoms and my life?” You don’t have to figure that out alone. Inside my Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain Healing Program, I walk you through exactly how to do this work step-by-step, with guidance, structure, and support.
You’ll learn how to: Understand your symptoms through a mind-body lens
Reduce fear and nervous system threat
Build safety in your body
Return to movement, intimacy, and life
Stay consistent in the work (even when your brain wants to spiral)
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When I was living with chronic pelvic pain, I believed that if I had symptoms, I was suffering. It felt impossible to enjoy my life or loosen my urgency to heal while pain was still there. Because I felt like I was always suffering.
Do you have to quit your job, leave your relationship, move, or completely restructure your life in order to heal?
Even though no one can do the healing work for you, that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone.