Deborah of the Museum of Sex Objects: Meretrix Whips, Rage, Freedom and Cat Ladies
You Will Please MeShow Notes
The Current Keeper of the Museum of Sex Objects, Deborah Sims, joins Eva Oh for a fascinating discussion on women and freedom on the #teakink Podcast. We discover more about the origins of the Museum, WeWork Dominatrix Dungeons, Coven Garden Industrial Spanking, and the museum's objects - including a whip made from Meretrix hair of Roman times. Deborah and Eva chat rage, 'Poor Things', historical patterns of sexual and female liberation and the importance of remembering our history - including cases of forced female circumcision in Notting Hill not that long ago.
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HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Meet Deborah Sims, the Keeper of the Museum of Sex Objects (02:15) - The Objects, from Roman times to Today (05:50) - Why the Museum Came About, Untold Stories and Straightjacketed Women (11:10) - The Intersection of Freedom, Desire and Cat Ladies (15:30) - Rage and Forced Female Circumcision in Notting Hill (20:35) - 'Poor Things', Female 'Hysteria' and Roe vs Wade (21:30) - Historical Patterns of Sexual and Female Liberation? (27:10) - The Importance of Remembering History (30:10) - Matriarchal Sex Cults and 18th Century Industrial Spanking (33:40) - Societal Challenges and Hopes for the Museum (37:40) - Coco de Mer and the Ladies of Covent Garden (40:30) - Sexy Soho Walking Tours and the WeWork Dominatrix Dungeon (43:05) - Manet's 'Olympia' (44:45) - The Unpaid Sexual Labour of Marriage vs(?) Sex Work (48:50) - Rethinking Censorship on Social Media, Awareness and Freedom (51:40) - Pain is Pleasure
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