Show Notes
What if you could get access to a Masters or PhD level BCBA for free, within 24 hours, from your phone?
That is exactly what Amol Deshpande built after spending years fighting a broken system just to get his own son diagnosed and into care. Amol is the founder and CEO of Frontera, a Silicon Valley tech entrepreneur who previously founded Farmers Business Network, growing it into a nearly four billion dollar company, and served as a general partner at Kleiner Perkins Caufield and Byers.
He pivoted his entire career after his son was diagnosed with autism at age two. In this episode, he shares what the journey has looked like over the past 12 years, why he believes the clinical community is failing parents at the moment of diagnosis, and why his son is now 14, badgering him to watch South Park, spending too much money at Shake Shack, and heading to a Knicks game.
This is a conversation about hope, access, and what happens when a parent decides to do something about the system instead of just surviving it.
What you will hear in this episode:
• Why even a Silicon Valley entrepreneur with every advantage struggled to get his son diagnosed
• How his son went from a serious autism diagnosis at age two to thriving as a teenager
• Why the clinical community gets the moment of diagnosis completely wrong
• Why a diagnosis label is a baseline, not a prophecy
• How Frontera gives parents free access to expert BCBA support within 24 hours
• Why community is one of the most underrated tools in the autism parenting toolkit
• Rob shares his own sons' outcomes including what they were told would never happen
ABOUT THE GUEST
Amol Deshpande is a seasoned entrepreneur and parent of a child with autism. His personal experience navigating a fragmented and inefficient care system inspired the creation of Frontera, a suite of tools that harnesses technology to expand access to high-quality behavioral healthcare for families everywhere.
Amol also invests in mission-oriented ventures through Divergent Investments, his family office. Before Frontera he founded and built Farmers Business Network into a nearly four billion dollar company with 1,000 employees from scratch. Prior to that he was a general partner at Kleiner Perkins Caufield and Byers, where he was the first investor in companies such as Beyond Meat and Axia Vegetable Seeds.
ABOUT YOUR HOST
Rob Gorski is the founder of The Autism Dad, a blog and podcast dedicated to supporting parents raising kids on the autism spectrum. As a dad of three autistic sons with over 25 years of experience, Rob brings lived experience, honesty, and heart to every conversation.
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