Show Notes
Have you ever looked at your bits and wondered, “Is that normal?”
You're not alone! And this week, Jay-Jay and Mel are getting VERY personal. We're talking about the insecurities nobody likes admitting to, from the appearance of our intimate body parts to erectile dysfunction, breast size and body confidence.
Jay-Jay has some questions about labia. Quite a few, actually. And when she compares them to the dangly bits on a chicken, Mel almost loses the plot. But there's a serious side to this conversation, too. Mel reveals how watching porn left her feeling ashamed of her own body for years, until a rather eye-opening experience with her girlfriends changed everything. Jay-Jay shares a personal story about dating a young man with erectile dysfunction, and Mel explains why erection difficulties don't necessarily mean a lack of attraction, or the end of a satisfying sex life. Plus, we're comparing boob jobs! Jay-Jay went smaller, Mel went bigger… then changed her mind.
In this episode, we explore: Why intimate body parts come in all shapes, sizes and colours. How unrealistic expectations can damage body confidence. What causes erectile difficulties and how couples can navigate them together. The surprising connection between antidepressants and sexual wellbeing. Why feeling sexy isn't about having the 'perfect' body.
Expect some genuinely useful relationship advice, a few vulnerable confessions and some spectacularly awkward questions. Because when it comes to our bodies, different doesn't mean wrong.
How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams.
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How to Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland - https://www.podlab.co.nz
HOSTS: Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney
Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach www.melissavranjes.com Instagram: @melissavranjes
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