Show Notes
The best position isn’t necessarily the one that looks hottest in the Kama Sutra.
This week, Jay-Jay Feeney and Melissa Vranjes are getting into positions - several of them, and figure out what actually makes one feel GOOD. Because different bodies like different things. You might not need a brand-new position altogether; maybe it’s a pillow, a tiny change in angle, a slower rhythm, more connection… or simply admitting, “Yeah, I hate this one.”
We talk about: • Why there’s no single “best” position for women • Comfort, connection and pleasure, and why they matter more than looking sexy • Small adjustments that can completely change how a position feels • Positions that allow more control over rhythm, pressure and depth • Why spooning deserves more respect • Why some popular positions can feel awkward, uncomfortable or just plain exhausting • Pelvic floor tension and choosing positions where your body can relax • How solo exploration can help you understand what works for you • What to do when your partner LOVES a position that you really don’t • Why novelty can be fun without every new position needing to end in fireworks • And why Jay-Jay probably doesn’t need the Kama Sutra after all
Plus, Mel shares her favourite starting points for women who want more pleasure, comfort and connection, and Jay-Jay shares rather more about her own preferences than she probably intended.
The big takeaway? Stop worrying about what looks sexy and start paying attention to what FEELS sexy.
How To Have Sex is hosted by Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. Send us your questions, stories and awkward bedroom dilemmas through our socials — the links are below. -------------------
How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams.
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HOSTS: Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney
Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach www.melissavranjes.com Instagram: @melissavranjes
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