Show Notes
Warning: there may be batteries. There may be buzzing. There will definitely be a Batman-shaped cock ring.
This week Jay-Jay Feeney and sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes tip a giant box of toys onto the bed and work out what couples should actually be playing with. Whether you're a total beginner or your bedside drawer is already full, Mel walks through how to choose a toy based on the sensation you want, why a toy is never "competition" for your partner, and how shopping together can open up the best conversations about pleasure.
We cover: Why toys aren't a sign something's missing (and how they help through pregnancy, perimenopause and erectile changes) Starting with the feeling you want: vibration, suction, sensation play, a bit of spanking... Dual-stimulation toys, pinpoint vibrators and why "solo" toys work brilliantly for two Rings, strokers and double-ended toys, with live (clothed!) demos Wearables, remote apps, and Mel's very sneaky cafe date with Steve The biggest mistake couples make when bringing a toy into bed Cleaning, materials, lube, charging and why you should never buy your toys from a bargain site
Plus: Jay-Jay figures out why toys have always made her feel awkward. Mel's mum makes her bed and finds a surprise. A dildo comes back from the bin. And we deliver a sex swing review nobody asked for.
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How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams.
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HOSTS: Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach www.melissavranjes.com Instagram: @melissavranjes Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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