Having Another Baby and Sibling Conflict: Listener Q&A
Big Fat Positive: Pregnancy and Parenting (BFP)Show Notes
Shanna and Laura answer listener questions on everything from what your child's personality at 15 months might tell you about who they'll become, to ideas for handling sibling conflict, to whether it's harder to go from zero to one child or one to two, and more!
Topics discussed in this episode: • What your baby's personality at 1-2 years old might tell you about who they'll become • How BFP episode lengths are determined (and why they aim for 50 minutes) • Favorite and least favorite phases of parenting • The threenager phase: why three might be the hardest age • Canadian and Romanian/EU dual citizenship: Laura's situation explained • Ideas for managing sibling fighting • Using specific praise as a tool for reinforcing good sibling behavior • Teaching your younger child not to take the bait from an older sibling • Deciding to have another child • Transitioning from zero to one child vs. one to two • The surprising music our kids are loving right now
Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode: • "The Ghost Ship That Didn't Carry Us" by Cheryl Strayed - The essay Laura recommends for anyone deciding whether to have a second child • The Greatest Showman soundtrack • "This Is Me" by Keala Settle • Weezer's Blue Album • Indiana Jones soundtrack by John Williams • "The Rocky Road to Dublin" from the Sinners soundtrack • "The Wellerman - Sea Shanty" by Nathan Evans • BFP Episode 110 - Deciding to Have Another Baby • BFP Episode 415 Extras on Patreon - Includes the outtake story about Laura's brother Jeff completing a map project at the last minute
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