In It: Raising Kids Who Learn Differently

Sorry not sorry: Why you shouldn’t apologize for your kid

In It: Raising Kids Who Learn Differently

Show Notes

In this episode of “In It,” hosts Gretchen Vierstra and Rachel Bozek welcome Christina Cipriano, PhD, MEd. Dr. Chris is a psychologist, and an associate professor at the Yale University Child Study Center. She is also the author of ”Be Unapologetically Impatient,” which comes out this summer.

Dr. Chris has four children, including a daughter who has ADHD and sensory challenges and a son with a rare, regressive disease. She has given a lot of thought to the idea of apologizing when you have nothing to be sorry for.

What can we say instead of “I’m sorry”? And what do we do when others say they’re sorry to us, just because something in our lives is a challenge? Dr. Chris has helpful tips for many of these scenarios.

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