He Says He Loves You, So Why Does He Keep Hurting You?
Marriage Rehab: Exposing Narcissistic & Emotional AbuseShow Notes
Why does a man say he loves you—yet still leave you feeling alone, unheard, and emotionally unsafe?
In this Clarity After the Conversation episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins unpacks one of the most painful questions women ask: How can he say he loves me and still hurt me the same way over and over again?
Building on the conversation with Dr. Eddie Capparucci, Dr. Hawkins explains why many men sincerely believe they are loving well while operating from emotional immaturity. You’ll hear why men often define love through staying, providing, or doing helpful tasks—but still fail to attune to their partner’s pain.
Dr. Hawkins breaks down why emotionally immature men hear criticism instead of pain, why defensiveness instantly destroys connection, why explanation is not an excuse, and why boundaries matter when a woman is carrying the emotional weight of the relationship alone.
If you are trying to discern emotional immaturity, emotional abuse, or narcissistic behavior, this episode offers clarity, language, and a next step.
Related Episode: Why Men Struggle to Love (Episode 63) with Dr. Eddie Capparucci innerchild-sexaddiction.com
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