Show Notes
Today, Ross and Eden, tantra practitioners, intimacy and relationship coaches, and community builders, share how they evolved from a very polyamorous dating life to a relationship that still leaves room for openness while honoring their nervous systems, emotional capacity, and desire to focus on each other.
We talk about: How to distinguish between a partner limiting your freedom out of judgment or control and a reasonable request to slow down while they work through their insecurities.
The consequences of pursuing relationships that don’t align with what you truly want in a primary partnership, both for yourself and for the people you date.
Why and how Ross and Eden designed a relationship in which they mostly date and play together, with occasional “hall passes” that let them explore separately three or four times a year.
Listen to Ross and Eden's bonus content on their open phone policy and approach to hierarchy: https://open.spotify.com/episode/58n8FiiFxtGwVRgTByGxAi?si=pNOZfQZaQhid8s44L-ryyA
Connect with Ross and Eden Eden's IG: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedwitheden/ Ross' IG: https://www.instagram.com/embodi.men/ Sacred Society: https://sacredsocietyproject.com/ Embodimen: https://try.embodimen.com/ Temple of Eden: https://linktr.ee/TempleofEden
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