Fresh Take: Sam Kelly on Teaching Kids About the Mental Load
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What if kids didn't need chore charts and constant supervision in order to participate in the lives of their households? What if the "mental load" was seen as a family-wide issue, where everyone could contribute to the solution?
Sam Kelly, creator of the "Notice and Do" method and author of the new book NOTICE AND DO: Raise Capable Kids, End Motherhood Burnout, and Lighten Your Mental Load, is here to tell us there's another way.
Amy and Sam discuss:
The "delegator trap"—why constantly assigning tasks keeps moms responsible for the "noticing"
Using a "learning ladder" to teach kids of all ages how to take over household tasks, step by step
Handling the pushback you might receive as you roll out the "notice and do" method
How kids who "notice and do" have agency and take initiative beyond the walls of your home
Here's where you can find Sam:
@samkelly_world on IG
Buy NOTICE AND DO: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780063460911
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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