Show Notes
Why is saying no so hard for women in midlife? Your kids, your partner, your parents, your friends, your work and the school WhatsApp all want a piece of you — and because you're so capable, everyone assumes you'll say yes.
This week on Self Care Club: The Midlife Edition, Nicole Goodman and Lauren Mishcon talk about why saying no might be one of the most important forms of self-care in your 40s and 50s — and how to actually do it without guilt.
In this episode:
Why women are conditioned to people-please — and why midlife is the moment to stop
"What you tolerate, you allow": how being capable makes people assume you'll do everything
The joy of JOMO — why you don't have to go to everything anymore
Why a genuine no is kinder than a fake, resentful yes
The simple pause that stops the automatic yes
Every no is a yes to something else
You don't need an excuse — how to say no honestly and briefly
Saying no to the request, not the person
Curating your friendships and letting other people be disappointed
Where to start if you really struggle with setting boundaries
If you've ever got to Friday night completely exhausted from a week of things you didn't want to do, this one's for you.
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