Show Notes
Drop your standards! Let go of your perfectionistic tendencies!
If I were paid a dollar every time I heard this message, I would have a large bank account by now.
When you’re pursuing a top performance – from athletic to intellectual to artistic ones – it’s fundamental that you distinguish those common principles that improve your performance and your well-being altogether.
In this episode, Brad Stulberg and I discussed research-based skills to deal with high-achieving and striving behaviors in a skillful manner and without losing yourself.
Key Takeaways
How to distinguish when perfectionistic actions are working for you or against you The difference between values-based goals and ego-driven goals How to avoid burnout in the information era How to manage your proneness to perfectionistic actions Day-to-day experiences of experiential avoidance Tips to handle the fear of failure How to figure out what is on the other side of your fears How to practice self-compassion when handling our fears
Show notes with time stamps
00:31 Understanding Fear-Based Reactions 01:02 Overcoming Perfectionism 01:36 Interview with Brad Stulberg: High Achieving and Striving Behaviors 02:19 Reflecting on Your Life and Overcoming Overthinking 03:28 Living According to Your Values 04:10 Using a Values-Based Review to Live the Life You Want 04:46 Conversation with Brad Stulberg: Balancing Productivity and Wellbeing 05:43 Understanding the Double-Edged Sword of Optimization 08:44 Dealing with Fear of Failure and Regret 17:48 Navigating Ego-Driven Goals and Values-Based Goals 24:09 Overcoming Experiential Avoidance
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