You Are Not Crazy

Emotional Whiplash, Hypervigilance, and the BPD Cycle of Abuse

You Are Not Crazy

Show Notes

How do you survive—and eventually recognize—the BPD cycle of abuse, especially when you are already exhausted, confused, and questioning yourself. In this episode, I break down the cycle as it actually unfolds in real life: The intense honeymoon phase, the sudden emotional whiplash, the accusations and character attacks, the breakups and reconciliations, and the long stretch of chaos that keeps you hooked through intermittent relief. I talk about why this dynamic is so hard to recognize while...

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