Show Notes
In this special Autism Acceptance Month episode, I’m re-sharing an important and personal conversation with my oldest son, Gavin.
Gavin is 25 years old, autistic, and immunocompromised. In this episode, we talk about his journey toward independent living and why he’s choosing to move into a group home. Gavin shares his thoughts, hopes, fears, and goals—including launching his own YouTube channel and building a sustainable future for himself. We discuss:
What Gavin is looking for in a group home
Health and hygiene concerns due to his compromised immune system
The emotional challenges of touring potential homes
Gavin’s budgeting process and side-hustle plans
His passion for gaming and creating a relaxed, inclusive online space
This is a real, unfiltered conversation about growing up, letting go, and navigating life with autism. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or self-advocate, I hope this episode helps you feel seen and less alone.
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