It's Not Confidence You've Lost, It's Self-Trust: Grief, Loss & Choosing Happiness with Tabby Kerwin
Females Thriving Over ThirtyShow Notes
Have you ever gone through something that changed you so completely that the person you were before feels like someone else? Grief, a relationship ending, a career change, miscarriage, IVF, becoming a mum or not becoming one: after a major life change we're told to "get our confidence back." But what if confidence isn't really what we've lost? This week, Soraya and Jasmine are joined by Tabby Kerwin, consultant psychologist, author, TEDx speaker and widow, who shares why widowhood made her happier and why rebuilding after loss starts with self-trust, not confidence.
We talk about: • Why you can be happy and sad at the same time • The "positivity pyramid": how self-kindness and self-compassion build self-trust, confidence and happiness • The simple "Will I regret it?" filter for making decisions without needing other people's approval • Guilt, relief, shame and the fear of other people's opinions after loss • Why grief isn't a bereavement issue but a long-term mental health reality • Grief in the workplace and how to become a grief-informed leader • Miscarriage, IVF and why there are no "levels" of grief, only layers • The two worst words to say to someone who's grieving • Why grief education needs to start in schools
Plus, Soraya shares an update on living with endometriosis and getting approved for an access card, and Jasmine reveals the surprising toothpaste swap that changed her mouth health. Whatever you've lost, if it feels like grief to you, it is grief, and you deserve support.
🔗 Connect with Tabby: Website - www.tabbykerwin.co.uk Insta & TT - @tabbykerwin For widows: Insta & TT @widowhoodmademehappier Free Grief and Mental Health Resources: www.theperformexperience.com Insta & TT - @theperformexperience 💛 UK grief support: The Good Grief Trust & Cruse Bereavement Care
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Females Thriving Over 30 is the podcast for women in their thirties, forties, fifties and beyond, and for the twenty-somethings quietly dreading the big 3-0. Spoiler: the best is yet to come.
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