How to Stop People Pleasing & Find Alignment: Subconscious Beliefs, Boundaries & Self-Worth with Yana German
Females Thriving Over ThirtyShow Notes
Why do you keep saying yes when you mean no? Transformational coach Yana German reveals why 97% of your daily life runs on subconscious programming and how to find your way back to alignment.
What if the life you're living looks right on the outside but doesn't feel right anymore? In this episode of Females Thriving Over 30, Soraya and Jasmine sit down with Yana German, the Chicago-based coach, spoken word poet and creator of SoulScript Poetry, known as the "Architect of Awareness & Alignment." With nearly three decades of experience, Yana shares how she turned her own healing from trauma into a calling. She explains how inherited beliefs and generational patterns quietly shape our relationships, our self-worth and our ability to set boundaries.
In this episode we cover: - Why affirmations alone don't work, and how subconscious beliefs really change - How your parents' fears and anxieties can become your patterns - Why "I don't know who I am anymore" is actually a breakthrough moment - The quiet within: how to hear your intuition over your ego - Why meditation doesn't work for everyone (and what to do instead) - The best times of day for reflection, journaling and gratitude - People pleasing, overgiving and why you can't pour from an empty cup - How to create your own integrity map - The 7 types of boundaries and why self-love is the key to setting them
If you're a recovering people pleaser, an overachiever or simply feeling stuck, this conversation is your reminder that worthiness is your birthright.
Content note: this episode includes discussion of childhood trauma, abuse and suicidal thoughts.
Connect with Yana German: Website & free self-assessment SoulScript Poetry on YouTube Poetry of the Mind on Facebook Seven Days to Soul Alignment ebook Workshop "Feel It, Understand It, Free It" – October 11
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