Show Notes
When trust is shattered, so is your ability to think clearly, speak confidently, and feel safe expressing yourself. In this powerful episode, Dr. Debi Silber sits down with Stanford University lecturer, communication expert, and bestselling author Matt Abrahams to explore how to reclaim your voice — even when fear, brain fog, and self-doubt have taken over.
Matt is the host of the globally renowned podcast Think Fast, Talk Smart and the author of Think Faster, Talk Smarter. He has spent decades helping people master spontaneous communication — the kind that happens in real time, under pressure, and when the stakes feel impossibly high. And if you've been through betrayal, you know exactly what that feels like.
In this episode, you'll discover:
Why most of our communication is spontaneous — and why that's actually good news
Four powerful mindset shifts to help you stop freezing and start responding with confidence
How to manage the physical and emotional symptoms of communication anxiety
The difference between "connection" and "perfection" — and why ditching perfection changes everything
How deep, intentional listening keeps you present and out of your own head
What it means to "trust loudly" — and how it rebuilds safety in your relationships
Why asking a question or paraphrasing in a meeting is a powerful act of confidence
How to use conflict as a problem-solving opportunity rather than a threat
The one mindset shift that transforms how you respond when communication goes wrong
Whether you're navigating a difficult conversation with a coworker, slowly rebuilding trust with a partner, or learning to speak up for yourself again after betrayal dimmed your light — this episode gives you the practical tools and the permission to start right where you are.
Connect with Matt Abrahams:
Podcast: Think Fast, Talk Smart (available everywhere)
Website: mattabrahams.com
LinkedIn & Instagram: @mattabrahams
Connect with Dr. Debi
The PBT Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com
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