Equestrian Performance Mindset

The Moment Every Rider Hates (But Needs) - #228

Equestrian Performance Mindset

Show Notes

Ever had that moment where you feel like you’ve finally figured something out in your riding… Only for everything to suddenly fall apart again?

In this episode, I and Lorna spoke about one of the most frustrating moments every rider experiences: when progress seems to disappear overnight.

After months of consistent rounds and feeling like things were finally under control, I suddenly found myself in a competition round where my horse felt strong, unresponsive, and completely out of control.

The first thought?

“I’m simply not good enough to ride this horse.”

Sound familiar? But what happened next became one of the biggest breakthroughs in my riding.

Instead of staying stuck in judgment, I chose curiosity, asking better questions, seeking feedback, and experimenting with a completely different approach to riding my horse. And the results were powerful.

In this episode we dive into:

Why progress in riding is never linear

The dangerous trap of the “I’m a bad rider” story

How your belief system (paradigm) shapes your performance

Why the solution that worked before can suddenly stop working

The difference between fighting your horse vs riding with them

How stepping into curiosity instead of judgment unlocks growth

Why feeling “out of control” might actually mean you're riding at the next level

Because sometimes the moment that feels like failure… Is actually the beginning of your next breakthrough.

Resources Mentioned:

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✉️ Register for our Weekly Mindset & Performance Hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

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