Show Notes
Today on #teakink Podcast, meet Conor - Shibari Artist, Rope Studio Owner, ex-Publisher and a multi-facted mind whom Eva Oh always adores to sit with. Listen in to their conversation which spans Conor's entering into kink, masculinity and fibromyalgia, kink as therapy, Antwerp, women clients, the link between kink and gambling - and so so much more.
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HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Meet Conor Aphilia, A Multi-faceted Mind That I Adore (01:30) - How We Met, Paraphilia Magazine (03:10) - Conor's Entering into Kink - Tinder, Parties and Ireland (05:10) - Rope - Lockdown, Masculinity and Fibromyalgia (08:30) - Kink as Therapy or Denying the Fun? (12:40) - Moving into Sex Work and Discovering Others and Ourselves (19:30) - Women Clients (22:50) - The Post-War Porn Reality of Shibari (26:30) - How Shibari has Changed Conor's Daily Life (29:45) - What Motivates Sex Work (35:40) - Antwerp, The Kinkiest Place in the World? (38:00) - The Highs and Woes of Publishing a Kink Magazine (42:50) - International Rope Learning Retreats (44:40) - What is Kink to Us - Power, Fetishism and Questioning the Norm (46:15) - Meeting Dossie Easton - The Link Between Kink and Gambling (47:30) - Dom Drop and Aftercare (52:00) - Men vs Women Clients and Intention Setting (54:45) - How to find Conor and the Aphilia Studio
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