I Hate It Here

S10 E7: Proof Your Job Is Rewriting Your Personality in Real Time with Jessie Stettin

I Hate It Here

Show Notes

Workplace culture rewires us in ways that could take a whole lifetime to understand.

It shapes our identity, confidence, authority issues, communication style, and even how we show up outside of work without realizing it!

And Jessie Stettin and I go there: your real life shows up at work too, influencing how you lead, handle conflict, and how you interpret every “quick chat” from your boss.

Who would have thought that things you did as a child still influence your work identity in such sneaky ways???

Culture is this invisible exchange constantly happening in both directions, shaping you while you’re shaping it…whether you signed up for it or not.

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0:05:00 - How Jessie Became an End-of-Life Doula

0:10:09 - Childhood Rules We Assumed Still Applied at Work, But Don’t

0:18:50 - Lessons About Authority and Belonging at Work

0:26:41 - Cultures That Have Shaped How Jessie Thinks About Success

0:36:47 - Being Stuck in an Environment Where You Feel Like You Don’t Belong

0:42:43 - A Point in Your Career When You Can Influence Your Culture

0:56:02 - How Jessie Would Redesign How People Socialize at Work

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