Show Notes
What happens when we stop trying to change the people around us?
In this episode, Jane Newman sits down with Kim Olver for a deeply personal conversation about relationships, parenting, control and the freedom that can come from recognising what we can and cannot change.
Kim shares the story of how her understanding of these ideas moved from something she used in her work to something she eventually had to integrate into her own life. She talks openly about raising her two sons, navigating the illness and death of her husband, and learning to respond differently when the people around her weren't behaving the way she wanted them to.
Jane and Kim explore why trying to change other people can be so exhausting, what happens when we stop expecting others to change so that our lives can be better, and how accepting someone doesn't necessarily mean staying close to them.
They also talk about the importance of patience and kindness towards ourselves. Living differently isn't something we master overnight. It takes practice, self awareness and a willingness to recognise when the old patterns are creeping back in.
A conversation about control, relationships and the possibility of a little more freedom when we stop trying to change everyone else.
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