Show Notes
You apologized. You meant it. And it's still sitting between you weeks later. In this episode, we'll cover why an apology feels like a finish line to most men and rarely feels that way to her, why old hurt resurfaces during arguments that seem completely unrelated, and what your defensiveness unintentionally confirms to her when she brings it up again.
We'll also talk about what's different when the mistake was an affair or a pattern of porn use, and what actually needs to happen for her to start believing real change has taken hold.
You'll hear:
Why an apology answers "what did you do" but not the question she's actually asking
What it means to let her see the internal work you've been doing, instead of assuming she already can
Why withdrawal and outbursts are often the same fear showing up differently
What consistent, repeated presence actually does that a single apology can't
I'm hosting a free webinar on Aug 4th where I'll walk through exactly what she needs to see from you after a mistake, and how to give her that without losing yourself in the process. It's at 2:00pm PT, 3:00pm MT, 4:00pm CT, and 5:00pm ET.
Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration
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