Show Notes
Somebody finally told you it wasn't your fault. Stop chasing her. Be more dominant. Don't text back right away. Let her wonder where you are.
For a lot of men, this kind of online advice arrives at exactly the moment they feel most rejected, and at first it feels like relief. In this episode, we'll cover why that advice is so convincing, what it gets right about self-respect, and why the tactics built on it usually leave men colder and lonelier in their marriages than before.
You'll hear:
- Why pulling back to get her attention is the same deal as doing more to earn it
- What her response to your distance usually means (and why it doesn't last)
- How contempt can creep in when you start seeing her as someone to manage
- The difference between withholding and refusing to abandon yourself
- A simple test for whether what you're doing is self-respect or a tactic
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