Show Notes
Is it normal to barely have sex in marriage? In this episode, we'll cover why a real, credible statistic about married couples still can't answer that question for you, and why chasing that number can quietly work against you, both with your wife and with yourself.
We'll cover:
What the actual research says about how often married couples have sex today
Why a national average can't tell you anything true about your specific marriage
How that number gets weaponized in arguments, or turned inward into shame about your body
The real questions worth asking instead: whether you actually talk to her, whether you still see her, whether effort at home has become a transaction, whether you're relying on her memory instead of your own
You'll hear why the question was never "am I normal," and what to ask instead.
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