The Intentional Parents Podcast

The Hidden Blockers of Sexual Desire in Marriage + How to Move Past Them Together

The Intentional Parents Podcast

Show Notes

We’re back with part two of our conversation on sex in marriage, this time getting into some of the hidden blockers of desire, along with a few practical ways to start moving past them. The goal isn’t just more sex, but a relationship where intimacy actually feels meaningful again.

A lot of what gets in the way isn’t obvious. Small, unresolved tensions can build up over time and create distance, even if nothing major is “wrong.” When those things go unaddressed, it’s hard to feel close in any sense.

On top of that, seasons change, but expectations don’t always keep up. Different life stages, stress, and even things like hormones can all affect desire. If those realities aren’t talked about, it can lead to frustration or quiet disappointment that slowly chips away at connection.

And then there’s what a lot of couples experience at some point: slipping into more of a roommate dynamic. Life inevitably gets full, attraction can fade or shift, and responsibilities and tasks can replace relationship and intimacy.

The good news is this stuff isn’t permanent. With some intention and healing, things can shift and grow in a healthy direction.

Practical Rhythms to Try: Take 10 minutes to have a “state of us” conversation, asking each other: “How can I show up for you today?” and “What is one thing I can do that will make you feel loved?” Repair within 24 hours. Rebuild playfulness.

Listen to Part 1, “Sex in Marriage: Communication, Connection + Healing Past Wounds Around Intimacy”: YouTube, Spotify + Apple Podcasts

Scripture Mentioned: Hebrews 12:15, Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 + Colossians 3:12

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