Outsourcing the Workload: How to Hand Stuff Over
What Fresh Hell: Parenting, Relationships, and Making Life Better, with Two Funny MomsShow Notes
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Feeling overwhelmed by everything that needs to get done? If you're the person who keeps track of the appointments, school forms, groceries, household repairs, gifts, kids' activities, and all the little things that seem to live permanently in your head, you may not need to get better at managing your workload—you may need to outsource some of it.
We tackle a listener question about how to outsource the household workload without having pockets deep enough for full-time help. We talk about why outsourcing can actually feel like more work at first, how to decide what to hand over, and how to get other people to truly take responsibility instead of simply giving you another task to manage.
Here are some topics we discuss:
Why the mental load is usually a systems problem
Glass balls vs rubber balls, and how to tell the difference
Why part-time help is a great way to outsource
why making your own life easier is a legitimate use of your resources
Here are links to some of the resources discussed in the episode:
Zawn Villines on Substack: Why the 'Fair Play' book doesn't fix labor inequality for most couples
Zawn Villines on Substack: Results of the State of Household Inequality Survey Show How Damaging Heterosexual Relationships Are to Women
Sarah Aswell for Scary Mommy: A Woman Is Going Viral For Timing How Long Unpleasant Tasks Actually Take
Christi Newrutzen on TikTok
Our Fresh Take with Eve Rodsky
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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