Show Notes
Why do you keep putting off the conversation you know you need to have?
And what is that silence actually costing you?
In this episode of BREAKTHROUGH, Hayden and Greg explore why we avoid difficult conversations and conflict, and why the reasons we give ourselves are almost never the real ones.
The story we tell is a noble one. I don't want to upset them. It's not the right time.
My needs are probably too much. Underneath it, Hayden argues, is something closer to home: fear of rejection, self-doubt, and the discomfort of sitting with our own unbearable feelings. So we avoid the short-term pain and hand ourselves a far larger long-term bill.
Because avoiding conflict doesn't remove it. It moves inside, where it builds into resentment, distance, and the sense that you are in a relationship with the version of yourself you present, rather than who you really are.
If you've ever found yourself: • putting off a conversation you know you need to have • telling yourself it's kinder to say nothing • agreeing on the outside while disagreeing on the inside • only speaking up once the resentment has already built
This episode will help you: • see why your explanation is rarely your real motivation • recognise conflict avoidance as a strategy, not your personality • have the small conversations before they become big ones
The goal of BREAKTHROUGH is to help you uncover the "why" behind your challenges and gain clarity on your next best steps to break the pattern. This episode explores how avoiding the hard conversation to protect someone else is often how we hurt them, and ourselves, the most, and why the willingness to be honest is what sets a relationship free.
Watch our episode on why you keep attracting narcissists here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kp-j-Y0FG8E&t=71s
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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. The content shared on this show is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological, or mental health advice. We do not diagnose or treat disease or provide medical care. Case studies and stories are shared to help illustrate concepts and create insight. Names and identifying details are regularly changed to protect confidentiality.
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