You Will Please Me

Isabella Sandak-Lewin: Sex Tech, the Orgasm Gap and Pole Dancing at Cambridge

You Will Please Me

Show Notes

Biomedical engineer and sex tech entrepreneur Isabella Sandak-Lewin joins Eva Oh on the #teakink Podcast to break down the gaps in medicine’s understanding of female sexuality. From the forgotten science of the female orgasm to the struggles of innovating in sex tech, Isabella shares her journey of developing a wearable sex toy and a diagnostic tool for BV. They explore the orgasm gap, cross-dressing, pole dancing at Cambridge, and the link between sexuality and personal freedom.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:23) - Isabella Sandak-Lewin - Biomedical Engineer and Sex Tech Entrepreneur

(01:53) - The Forgotten Interaction of Body, Medicine and Sexuality

(05:40) - Medicine Forgot the Female Orgasm

(10:15) - The Orgasm Gap

(12:40) - Isabella's Wearable Sex Toy

(18:13) - Isabella's BV and More Diagnosis Tool

(24:40) - Adolescence, Ballet and Eating Disorders

(29:30) - Cross-Dressing and How Women and Men are Perceived

(34:00) - How Isabella Claimed Her Sexuality

(38:35) - Fem Tech and Sex Tech Struggles

(40:00) - 'Coming Out' About Sex Tech

(45:00) - The Link Between Sexuality and Personal Freedom

(50:00) - Pole Dance, Cambridge University and Castration

(58:35) - COVID and Saying Yes

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