Show Notes
On this episode of the #teakink Podcast, Eva Oh sits down with David Chambers, a coach helping men deepen their capacity for love. They unpack his past in the pick-up artist community, why he initially resisted becoming a coach, and what actually makes a good one. From the parallels between coaching and domination to men’s fears around love and attunement, they explore what holds people back from empathy and connection. Plus, they dive into Vipassana, the patriarchy, universal basic income—and whether aliens might just save us all.
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HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:00:21) - Why David Chambers Helps Men to Love More Deeply (00:01:50) - How Love Has Changed For David Since He Became a Coach (00:06:25) - Why and How David Started to Change His Experience of Life (00:11:00) - Who Asks for David’s Help and Why? (00:12:10) - David’s Own Coaches (00:14:25) - Eva’s Initial Mistrust of Coaches (00:16:40) - David’s Pick Up Artist Coaching and Community (00:22:35) - David Didn’t Want to be a Coach (00:23:20) - What Makes a Good Coach (00:25:40) - A Dominatrix Coaching Circle? (00:27:50) - Managing Client Numbers as a Coach (00:30:20) - Parallels between Dominatrix and Coaches (00:31:25) - The Benefits of Coaching in Groups (00:34:00) - David’s Fear of Expressing Love (00:36:30) - What are Men Afraid of and How to Work with Their Fears (00:41:25) - Men’s Approaches Towards Women and ‘Attunement’ (00:53:10) - Eva’s Perspective Building ‘Walking Exercise’ with Her Clients (00:56:40) - Why People Hide from Feeling Empathy (00:59:10) - The Patriarchy, Reparations, Gisèle Pelicot and What Do We Do About It (01:08:00) - Leaning into Challenge, Disagreement and Moving Out of Reaction (01:10:00) - Vipasanna Meditation and Rewriting Our Relationship to Pain (01:14:00) - Universal Basic Income and Greed (01:15:00) - Will Aliens Save Us?!
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