You Are Not Crazy

When “How to Treat a Man” Teaches Women to Disappear

You Are Not Crazy

Show Notes

I unpack a viral TikTok that has been shared hundreds of thousands of times—and why its message is far more dangerous than it first appears. On the surface, the video presents itself as “relationship advice” about how women can keep men happy. In reality, it reinforces coercive control, sexual entitlement, and the idea that women are responsible for regulating men’s emotions, egos, and loyalty—often at the expense of their own boundaries, bodies, and well-being. I break down: How this type of...

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